Here is what he had to say about the songs that he chose:
Music does something to me. It’s a passion that sparked my interest in writing quite a few years ago. Had it not been for music, I might not be writing a blog these days, even if it is a parenting one. But to me, music is more than just songs with catchy choruses. They’ve been coping mechanism. They’ve been things that have often given me the strength to get through depression. I’ve related to so many songs over the years, and some of those songs will be listed here. So let’s start!
Creeper – Misery
This is my go-to-song to play or sing when it comes to trying to get Isabelle to go to sleep. It’s a stunning song by an amazing band. And it’s probably not even the best song on the album. This is just a beautiful song. The perfect guitar intro, the vulnerability in Will’s voice, and the build-up to an outstanding vocal performance. Then there’s the chorus:
The way he sings the”Just hold my hand for a little while” still gets me today. He says it with absolute conviction and passion and it just feels that this man wants to be held whilst he’s dealing with whatever it is that’s going on. He’s a wreck. You have every reason not to be there, but instead, you hold his hand. It’s how I’ve felt so many times over the years with my wife. I’ve been a wreck, you shouldn’t have to be here with me, yet here you are, holding me.
Defeater – I Don’t Mind
This is actually our first dance song for our wedding, and it was also one that I used during my proposal to my wife. So I guess it’s always going to be a special song, even if we end up divorced, it’ll still be a big song in my life. It’s basically about meeting the girl, and eventually wanting to get married and have children. There are some lines in this that are very similar to how we got together, especially the ‘cleaned the mess from my hair’line, which was something I had to do for my wife on the night we met.
Ironically the band are actually a hardcore band and spend most of their time screaming. On this particular album, they opted to do a few acoustic songs. I very much doubt you would like much else that they’ve done, but the acoustic ones are awesome!
Deaf Havana – I Will Try
This is a song about depression. It’s about not being that strong when others have seemingly gone through worse than you have. I related to it so much because the one line in the song felt so true to me. “And I will try my best to find a smile And I will close my eyes and say I’m not afraid.”
That’s basically how I felt a lot of the time. Just trying my best to put on a smile and appear as if all is normal. A lot of Deaf Havana’s songs have a similar feel to this, and this album is still my favourite album of all time.
Judas Priest – Painkiller
This is a little bit of heavier one for most people. But this is the first song from an album my friend and I would listen to every time we spent the night playing Gears of War. We would basically spend the entire night playing that game listening to all sort of metal albums, but when in doubt, we’d go to this. Unfortunately, he would later die on a night out. I was with him when it happened and I blamed myself for many years after. I still do to a certain extent. But this isn’t really an album I listen to all that often these days. I still get a little upset by it when I hear the songs off this album if I let myself think too much. Even the artwork takes me back to those nights. But that’s part of life. It might hurt a little to see or hear this, but life hurts sometimes, and that’s just how it is.
Bring Me The Horizon – Drown
Here’s another slightly heavy song, but nowhere near how heavy Bring Me the Horizon can get. This is another song about depression, and another one I heavily related to. Here’s the lyrics that got me: “Who will fix me now? Dive in when I’m down? Save me from myself, Don’t let me drown.”
It’s not just the lyrics themselves, but it’s the way that they are sung. Oli Sykes puts everything into these words. Almost to the point where his voice cracks the entire time he does it. It’s what makes this such a special song. You feel that these words are real. This is him genuinely calling out to save him. And it’s something I felt myself a lot of the time too.
Well, that’s five songs that mean quite a lot to me. There are many, many more that I could have listed here. But I really wouldn’t want to turn this into a massive post.
Thank you for this, it was really fun!